To me, the idea of finding a husband is like the idea of buying an expensive designer handbag. 

Everyone seems to want one (though not everyone can rationally explain exactly WHY they do) and so it seems to be the accepted norm that at some point, you should have one. Some women who have them then brag about them and compare them with each other and try to shame you into thinking that they’re better than you because they have one and you don’t.

So ok, I see some of the appeal. You could get great quality and you can make use of it for a long time if you invest in one and take care of it. It looks good on your arm and it could be practical as well. 

But for someone like me, who really doesn’t mind going through life without ever owning a designer bag (and have never seen a single one that I can see myself committing to), I can’t imagine doing what a lot of women do: They go into some place like Louis Vuitton and buy something –anything– just so they can say they have an LV. I even hear women say things like “Oh, this wasn’t really the model I wanted but it was the only thing I could afford at the time so this is what I bought.” Why on earth would you shell out so much dough on something that you didn’t even really want in the first place? For some false sense of accomplishment or level in society?

You could also be fooled by something that looks like the real thing but is actually a fake (and you fell for it because you were on a budget) so it falls apart wayyy before it’s supposed to. If you really think about it, if nobody bought fakes, what would happen? …They’d stop making fakes. Unfortunately, more people buy fakes than the real thing. And so the market is flooded with cheap, low-quality knockoffs.

I don’t want to say I’ll never buy a designer bag. But if I ever do, it’s going to be something I really want, is of impeccable quality, at a time when I can afford it without having to go on credit, and is exactly what I’m looking for. No compromises. If it’s not all of those things, I can’t think of any reason why I should commit to something so expensive. 

And that’s just a handbag. How much more discerning should you be when you’re thinking of marriage, right?