The bare-faced fact of life is this: God does not owe you a tall, handsome partner. He doesn’t even owe you a good partner. Getting one is a blessing that not everyone is going to get.
So many women my age are panicking because they’re about to hit the big 3-0 and are probably more concerned about just getting married than actually waiting to find a man who will be a good husband. Don’t be one of those people who spend so much time worrying about getting to walk down the aisle that they forget that there will be a marriage that comes after.
If you have high standards you have to learn to be okay with the idea of being single because otherwise, you WILL compromise your standards.
If you know what you want, don’t listen to those people who tell you to lower the bar. Once you’re with a person who has all those things you don’t want and none of the things you do want, you will remember that you can’t change a person. Don’t be in a relationship with a project that you have to fix.
Know your deal-breakers and non-negotiables. Make sure they are things that will really matter. And stick to them.
At the end of the day, the idea of being on my own doesn’t scare me, and I actually enjoy it. The idea of being stuck in a horrible marriage is what terrifies me to my very core.
